It's never easy dating especially when you're ready and being intentional. Dating is a risk. it's a gamble. You have to know when you're up and when you've loss and need to walk away from the table.
Here are a few tips on what I have typically looked for when it comes knowing when 'he's right for me!'
I don't have to be "made up" in order to feel beautiful around him
On good and bad days, he understands exactly who I am and doesn't expect me to be anyone but myself. In his eyes, I am special by just being me. No pretending. No make up necessary.
During times like this when all there is to do is lounge in stained sweatpants and an oversized hoodie, there would be no doubt that he is more attracted to me than ever and thinks I'm still the prettiest woman in the world. He's happy we decided on one another and respects and cherish the time that we share together.
My happiness is his happiness, and vice versa
I know he's right because he's good to me in way's that are unimaginable; way's I never thought possible. He wants what's best for me (us), even if it comes at a cost to him.
He gives selflessly, as my interests are now his interests. He balances ambitions and passions at work and at home with the time that we are able to converse during the day. He knows that communication is key to me so he indulges in the things that brings me pleasure because it brings him pleasure, too.
He is my bright spot. Even at the end of a really bad day, all I want is to be with him
No matter what kind of mood I'm in, I'd rather be with him than be alone, for I'm better with him than without him.
He patiently listens while I vent and speak my mind. He never invalidates my concerns with his experiences and honest feedback. His confidence, the passion in his voice and level of intelligence positively influence my own thoughts and concerns, which makes the relationship all the more exciting.
The attraction is palpable
Physically, emotionally and mentally, we are both compatible on all those levels. Our chemistry is powerful enough to block everything else out. We are drawn to one another. We can sense when something is off. We are one. Sometimes it feels like we're all that matters.
Even doing the littlest things together, feel more special because he's around. My attraction to him is pervasive from the bedroom to the most platonic of places, like Target. We can't keep our hands off of each other and we certainly aren't holding back.
I want to share experiences with him
When I envision my future, he has a major role in it (and vice versa). The idea of committing to him doesn't scare me at all. We both want to "make plans".
When something funny happens or I receive good news, I immediately want to share it with him first. When a particular love song comes through my headphones or the car stereo, I instinctively think of him.
From what/where he ate for lunch to how he spends his evening after work, I'm interested in all that he does. And, while I sometimes hate to admit this, my day's are never bad when he's apart of it. That's just what being 'right' is to me.
We can be transparent about our idea of romance and be open about our future
Whatever my definition of romance is -- intimate conversations, watching me take a bubble bath, holding his hand while we take a drive -- he shares in it and will go the extra step to make it happen.
He won't shy away from pouring his heart out or opening up to me because he trusts me and wants to connect with me on a deeper level. He takes my past experiences in relationships seriously and understands that I have been hurt so he's patient with me as he understands there is healing happening.
We love more than we fight
It never feels good we there's a fight because I care too much about him to hurt him. The compromise always seems like the best option because we both can be happy. But at the end of the day, we can't really stay mad at each other for long.
He not only listens to me, but he hears what I'm saying
We can both read between the lines and anticipate each others needs without ever really having to communicate them all the time. He thoughtful and well intentioned like that.
He knows and feels what I am trying to say without having to always explain myself. Our intent is to help each other grow and become the people we want to both be.
He accepts me as I am
I can be dorky, make mistakes and have a few insecurities, but he loves me for it. He makes me feel good about all the things I dislike about myself.
He brags about me to his friends and even his co-workers (male and female) because he's proud to call me his own. I would brag more, except everyone already knows how enamored I am (lol).
He knows everything about "who I am" --good and bad (vice versa) -- and we both appreciate both (good and bad) because it's all apart of what's shaped us and who we are, today.
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